The Introspection-aholics™ Podcast is a bi-weekly mental health and self awareness podcast focused on helping women thrive in their life by showing up for their wellness!
Featuring interviews with real people who suffer with mental illnesses and those support them as well as discussions on general wellness, self care and current mental health talk.
Pulling from my own experiences with depression, anxiety and postpartum depression, I’m your host Kendra Kantor and I’m ready get real on these hard topics to help YOU re-define, re-align and discover who you really WANT to be.
Kathy Stowell is the founder of Mama Bliss Coaching School (http://www.mamablisscoachingschool.com)- a twelve week training program for moms to coach other moms to deeper self-care, creativity, a values led-life and simplicity. She also writes over at Bliss Beyond Naptime about how honoring these four pillars of Mama Bliss can move a mama toward discovering her passions and calling outside of motherhood.
She lives with her mountain man and two kids that look exactly like him in Nelson, British Columbia. She loves a creamy, triple shot latte, sewing on Sundays and spooning with her wiener dog in bed on chilly mornings.
Kathy’s current over-listened to artist : Max and Irene
Her favorite quote is from Leonard Cohen:
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.
“It reminds me to go easy. To not have to be the perfect woman, the perfect mom.”
5:25ish : [my business ] grew from my love of blogging.
6:00ish : The blog was documenting my crafting, knit alongs and sew alongs. Then it turned to the personal, sharing our homesteading. We set up a hobby perma-culture farm. I was homeschooling, home birthing and homesteading.
6:35ish : I loved blogging so much. For me it was such a creative outlet and a way for me to really reflect on my life learning and observations. But just a great way to highlight what you value. For me I could look back on the categories and see, wow this is what I’m passionate about.
7:45ish : I began to offer online crafting courses but I wanted to go deeper. I began researching coaching schools and I decided to become certified as a simplicity parenting coach.
8:10ish : Then I became certified as a kaizen-muse creativity coach because I see the healing nature of creative play and also the coaching tools are powerful for creative types. I sense that all the moms out there are creative creatures and we experience similar blocks. Such as perfectionism and procrastination, feelings of overwhelm, spinning of your tires etc.
10:30ish : I had undiagnosed postpartum anxiety.
10:45ish : I feel like it started to creep up right after we moved.
11:00ish : We were just about to have supper, I shared with my girlfriends that it was so wild around dinner time I could feel this sense of doom coming over me.
11:20ish : I was so excited about becoming a mother and I was trying to express to my friends who hadn’t had kids yet that it’s like life’s big volume knob is just cranked up, many many notches. All the beauty is really amplified but at the same time, all the scariness and fear was also cranked up too.
12:45ish : My daughter got so sick. She was sick the whole entire winter.
13:00ish : I called my mom crying, my nerves can’t take this. I was so worried about her. I asked, tell me you get used to this.
13:10ish : She’s from Peru and she said “Kathy, you never get used to it! Get used to it.”
13:25ish : So since then around dinner time, I could feel anxiety creep up. I would get fearful she would get sick.
13:50ish : It was pretty manageable until I was pregnant with my son ad it became exacerbated.
14:40ish : I had never even heard of ppa. I had heard of ppd and I never felt that. I was always kind of…felt happy. It was just in the evening I felt over worried, never really depressed.
15:15ish : It’s only recently I started feeling it was more under control. My son is 6 and my daughter is 10
16:14ish : Learning to manage – was tied into my 4 pillars of bliss : self care, creativity, living by values and simplicity.
16:30ish : In simplicity parenting, if you notice your kid’s behavior is starting to slide from just being quirky or just what he/she does. When they get overlay ed with low key stressers like too many lessons or activity, you can see that their behavior slides toward red flag.
16:58ish : I started noticing that in myself if my self care was sliding.
17:20ish : It was acupuncture …i would spend 45 minutes talking his face off and only have 15 minutes of acupuncture. So sometimes just having that sounding board, just to get the stuff off.
17:42ish : Which I way I believe so powerfully in life coaching, specifically moms to other moms
18:18ish : I found a naturopath, she put me on some herbs. She told me to stop drinking wine with dinner.
18:31ish : The first thing I said when I walked into her office, you can’t make me stop drinking my latte. So she doesn’t touch my latte.
19:08ish : The first thing she said was no more red wine.
20:22ish : Before I had kids I was fearless. The party girl, I would go to parties and have so much fun in the evenings.
21:45ish : I was homeschooling, following a Waldorf curriculum. We were living in an alternative mountain town.
22:30ish : So we moved closer to town to try out the new Waldorf school and both of my kids are thriving.
22:55ish : I like to choose muses in different area of my life. For my creative work, for my business. For my parenting, as much as I was resisting this as the beginning, my mom is actually my parenting mentor.
23:20ish : I would think back to my own childhood in terms of balancing work and parenting. My mom never played with me. At first I really struggled with that, I would see my best friend and she’s the opposite. She’s right there with her kids, hands on and entertaining them,
23:45ish : I tried that and got super exhausted. Ugh, I’m not into this.
24:00ish : Allowing them to get bored. Proclaim, I’m not here to entertain you.
24:25ish : They know it’s their own responsibility to entertain themselves.
24:45ish : I was totally not resentful to my mom.
25:05ish : Guilt comes up when I’m short on patience.
25:15ish : My kids are so awesome and that’s when the guilt hits.
25:34ish : I remind myself, that guilt is a waste of energy. But at the same time, if it’s going to be there, just use it to try harder the next day. I look at them and use those feelings of guilt and remind myself, tomorrow i’m just going to try harder with my patience and look at why I was short.
26:34ish : Yes! I was a little introspection about it but I have to say yes (I am an introspection-aholic). As the nature of blogging, you have to be.
27:31ish : [For mom’s to pay attention to self care during the summer months]…find somewhere in nature that you can somewhat relax into.
Get in touch with Katyh at her website where you can download her free e-book The Bliss Filled Mama
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