The Introspection-aholics™ Podcast is a bi-weekly mental health and self awareness podcast focused on helping women thrive in their life by showing up for their wellness!
Featuring interviews with real people who suffer with mental illnesses and those support them as well as discussions on general wellness, self care and current mental health talk.
Pulling from my own experiences with depression, anxiety and postpartum depression, I’m your host Kendra Kantor and I’m ready get real on these hard topics to help YOU re-define, re-align and discover who you really WANT to be.
Marie Segares is a crochet and knitting blogger, designer, teacher, podcaster, and small business consultant. She started the Underground Crafter blog in 2011 while working full-time in public higher education change management. In 2013, she left the working world and became a full-time solopreneur, straddling two disparate industries: education and yarn. The combination keeps things interesting!
Marie continues to share free crochet patterns, crochet and knitting book and product reviews, and her crafty adventures on the Underground Crafter blog. She is also a contributing writer for the Creative Income Blog.
In 2014, Marie launched the Creative Yarn Entrepreneur Show, a weekly business podcast for indies in the yarn industry. Marie also co-hosts a monthly live G+ Hangout on Air, No Frills Small Business, with her high school buddy, Carlota Zimmerman, the Creativity Yenta®. In between laughs, they share resources and advice for other solopreneurs. And she hosts the NY CollegeChat.
Marie is a graduate of Barnard College. She earned her Master’s in Public Health from Columbia University and her Master’s in Business Administration from New York University. She lives in New York City with her boyfriend and two rescued cats.
Marie’s favorite super hero Wonder woman! “I told my mom she looked just like wonder woman. Wonder Woman who was a bad-ass, she forced people to tell the truth and save lives.”
3:30ish : Her favorite quote is from Eric B. and Rakim: I Know You Got Soul “It ain’t where you from, it’s where you at.”
4:50ish : Over the course of my life, being an introvert…for me is mentally health to be alone.
5:20ish : When I was a teenager, I got involved in a program for peer education for hiv and aids to other teens.
6:00ish : while I could spend time with speaking and had strong speaking skills…the more I interacted with people, it was really draining and stressful.
6:42ish : how can I stop doing something that helps others? It felt selfish to try to care for myself in that situation.
7:20ish : I worked inside of a high school, I interacted with 100s of students a day…the demands of the interpersonal communication started to make it difficult to have the energy to do the quiet work I had to do.
8:05ish : at that time I started to think my mental health was fragile and wondered what was going to happen from that point?
8:50ish : my partner said you have to take care of yourself. You have no energy, you have no time for us. You give everything to work and nothing when you get home.
9:30ish : at some point it just became unbearable.
9:40ish : I found myself in the middle of the day, going to the restroom at work crying or feeling like I was going to have a heart attack.
10:00ish : I tried to find a mental health provider via my health insurance and I tried to have appointments with 3 different people and it was just terrible. It made me want to give up getting help.
10:40ish : finally, I had a friend give me a recommendation and I’ve been seeing a social worker.
12:50ish : the first big chunk fo time with (the social worker) we worked with what I could do to get out of my job situation.
13:30ish : I realized I wanted to take my part-time crocheting business and make it work.
14:35ish : my social worker referred me to a massage therapist. “she thinks of it as part of your wellness, it’s not a spa treatment, it’s a way to realign your body.”
15:15ish : I need to have routine things to take care of myself integrated into my life.
16:15ish : my family wasn’t resistant but they have a way of triggering things in you that other people don’t. For me, my mom was concerned with me not having full-time employment.
17:45ish : having the confidence to explain I can’t stay at this job, it’s unhealthy…I’ve tried looking for other jobs and I don’t want to take other jobs that I’m qualified for as they would bring similar emotional issues. Having the confidence to say, I understand your concern but this is what I have to do.
20:35ish : the social worker that I saw brought that to the forefront. You can make these choices, just tell your family about it.
21:20ish : the biggest thing wasn’t just changing my job, but changing the environments I was exposed to. I spend a lot of time alone which is very energizing.
22:25ish : I’ve stopped riding the subway as often.
23:00ish : I’ve been trying to focus more on other aspects of my physical health. I’ve been really sedentary for the last 8 years.
24:05ish : When you teach you have to be introspective, to know how different people learn.
24:40ish : I do a lot of creative work with my crocheting and when I do that my mind is free to think about anything. I have a lot of interesting thoughts I would haven’t when working on the computer or teaching.
25:25ish : in the past it was a side business and after this or after that. And now I can say, I want to spend Tuesday working on this design. That helps my mental health and it’s meditative.
26:00ish : if I have a stressful meeting or something, I can say I’m going to put aside 2 hours and work on this design and while that’s work it’s just more calming to my mind and body.
Stressed friend advice?
27:40ish : I would validate their feeling. It doesn’t matter objectively to the outside world if their life doesn’t seem stressful.
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