No matter what religion you adhere to, you probably have some sort of family obligations this winter. And as much as we all (try to) love and accept our families, they can be hard to deal with. Holidays are a very high stress time of the year and so it’s best to try to prepare yourself now for how to get through it unscathed.
Last year, I shared how to enjoy the holidays and avoid overwhelm, this year I want to give you some real mantras to utilize during these stressful times to help you feel calm and centered.
I give myself permission to say no.
For so many of us, we want to keep our family and friends happy and not cause any upsets. Which often results in saying “yes” to everything and anything during the holidays! Back to back social functions or events can cause too much stress, especially if you have a mental illness. Give yourself permission to say no this year.
I will be patient and tolerant.
Try not to react instantly to negative, political, religious or offensive comments from a friend or family. Take a pause and gather your thoughts, try to respond non-judgmentally and calmly. Getting worked up and reacting with yelling or hurt won’t make the holidays easier to deal with.
The way people react or treat me is not a personal attack.
Similar to the above but this is just as important of a reminder so I’m including it for you. Maybe on the holidays, your brother tends to drink a little too much and comments on how isolated you are all the time, he jokes about your overall depressive mood and it stings! Take a breath and say this mantra to yourself. You don’t know everything your brother is going through and it is almost never a personal attack on you, it’s a way for them to deal with their own life.
I am in charge of my life and I will honor the energies and values I want to cultivate.
It’s totally okay to want to do something different than the majority of your family and friends. This is something that I’ve learned a lot since having my son. My little family of three doesn’t thrive in a high energy environment but my siblings and parents are loud and high energy. It’s fun to be around but not all day! We have learned to make sure we take breaks but more importantly, do our own holiday celebrating as just the three of us in a calm way too.
I will not let the perfect get in the way of the good.
We all have a picture in our heads of the perfect way to decorate, or the perfect meal, the perfect gathering…but the reality is that mistakes happen, life isn’t picture perfect and you know what, that’s okay! Use this mantra to remind yourself that, while it might not be the fairy tale you imagined in your head, things are pretty good getting to hang out with friends and family.
Here’s a jpg image you can download and save to your phone to help remind you throughout the next month of these mantras! Feel free to share it on social media as well. Just click to open the full image and then right click and select “save as” or “download as”
Share in the comments what mantras you plan to use most this holiday season!